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Today we’re stepping into a tender, powerful space… one that many women don’t want to talk about, even though it quietly shapes the way we show up in business, in our communities, and in our sacred work. 

I want to gently ask you something:
Have you ever hesitated to trust other women?
Maybe you’ve pulled back from groups of women…
Or maybe, for whatever reason, you’ve shrunk a little in the presence of another woman who was super confident or sure of themselves…
Or maybe, you’ve had that little pang—of competition, jealousy, or not-enoughness—and then felt shame for even feeling it.

If any of that resonates, you are so not alone. 

What you may be feeling is the ache of the sisterhood wound.
And this wound? It’s ancient. It’s layered. And it’s real.
But here’s the magic: once you name it, you can start to alchemize it.

So today, we’re going to explore what the sisterhood wound actually is, how it may be silently shaping your business and spiritual path—and how to begin gently weaving trust, connection, and community back into your life and your work.

Let’s begin.

🌑 What is the Sisterhood Wound?

Before we can heal something, we have to name it.

The sisterhood wound is a deep, collective pain—passed down through generations—of being judged, betrayed, or exiled by other women.

It’s the echo of lifetimes where speaking your truth or standing in your power was dangerous…
It’s the memory of being outcast for your gifts, or turned against by those who should have stood beside you.

Sometimes it shows up through your lineage—maternal relationships, female friendships that turned sharp, or early moments of exclusion.

And sometimes, it’s ancestral or even past life.
Wounds from the burning times.
Shadows from covens gone wrong.
Priestess temples dismantled by ego and power struggles.

We carry it in our bodies and in our energy fields.
And without even realizing it—we build walls around our hearts… even when what we crave most is sacred connection.

🔮 How It Might Be Holding You Back

Let’s bring this a little closer to your everyday life—especially if you’re running a spiritual business.

If you’re a spiritual entrepreneur, healer, witch, or guide… the sisterhood wound might be showing up like this:

• You second-guess yourself in group settings with other women.

• You avoid collaborations or group programs, even though part of you longs to join.

• You shrink your magic just enough to avoid judgment.

• You’re afraid to show up fully, because you fear being gossiped about, misunderstood, or disliked.
  
  

• Or maybe… you overgive in your offers because you’re terrified of being called selfish or “too much.”

And sometimes… it’s even more subtle than that.

Maybe you’ve been in a group of women where everyone seemed supportive at first—but once you started actually gaining momentum in your life or business, the energy shifted.
Suddenly, those same women who cheered you on begin making little jabs at your ideas or belittling your vision. You can feel them chipping away at your confidence—not always outright, but in those sideways comments that sting more because they come from people you once trusted.

Or maybe there’s someone in your circle who always seems to have the inside scoop—the better opportunities, the powerful connections, the keys to rooms you’re not in—and instead of opening doors, they keep dangling the carrot. Offering just enough to keep you close, but never enough to actually help you grow. That’s gatekeeping. And it’s a wound masked as mentorship.

Or maybe—now, warning, this one’s tender—maybe you’ve shared something deeply personal. A story of being hurt, dismissed, or even abused. And instead of being held, you were labeled the problem. The crazy one. The “too much” one. Because it was easier for them to push you out than to face the truth.

Sound familiar?

It’s sneaky.
But the sisterhood wound can quietly limit how visible we let ourselves be.
How much joy we allow ourselves to feel.
How deeply we let others witness our rising.

So just take a breath with me here.

You’re not broken.
You’re not unworthy of sacred sisterhood.
You’re just carrying an old, old story—and that story is ready to be rewritten.

Because the sisterhood wound is not just personal.
It’s ancestral. It’s collective. It’s encoded.

These patterns have been passed down through generations of women who had to betray one another to survive.
Who were taught that visibility equals danger.
That loyalty means silence.
That love must be earned through performance.

So when these things happen to us now—in circles, at work, or in families—they don’t just hurt because of the moment.
They hurt because they echo something ancient.

And here’s the healing truth:

You are not crazy for feeling these things.
You are not too sensitive.
You are not imagining the shift in the room when you start to shine.
And most of all—you are not alone.

You are witnessing the places where feminine connection has been broken—and you’re being invited to become part of the healing.

And here’s the truth that takes courage to say...

Sometimes, we’re not just the ones who’ve been hurt.
It’s also quite possible we’ve been the ones doing the hurting.

I know I’ve been this person. I wasn’t always aware of my wounds and I have DEFINITELY been this person before. 

So I want to gently ask…
Have you ever been the woman who dimmed another’s light with a side comment?
Have you ever felt that twinge of jealousy and made a quiet move to undercut her success?
Have you ever been the gatekeeper, trying to hold onto the power—maybe without even realizing it?

This is not about shame. I’m not trying to shame you or any woman for that matter. This isn’t about that.
This is about witnessing your patterns so you can choose differently.

We’ve all internalized these systems.
We’ve all had moments of insecurity or fear that made us act in ways we’re not proud of.

But when you catch yourself doing it—and still choose not to project it…
That’s powerful.
That’s healing the sisterhood wound at the root.

It starts with awareness.
With pausing before you speak.
With celebrating another woman even when you’re unsure of your own path.
With giving what you wish someone would give you.

That’s how we shift this. Together.

And let me say this gently, but clearly…
We were not born this way.
We didn’t come into this world wired to distrust, diminish, or compete with one another.
These patterns were taught.
Conditioned.
And yes—designed.

The sisterhood wound is a symptom of a much older system.
A system that told women their value was in their desirability.
That told us there wasn’t enough to go around.
That punished us for gathering in circle… for sharing power… for remembering our magic.

That system is called patriarchy.
And the more we become aware of it—not to blame, but to witness—the more we begin to unhook from it.

The more we see each other not as threats, but as mirrors and allies, we can all help lift eachother up. 

And this is where we begin to turn toward healing—gently, intentionally, and with support.

Here are some goddesses you can work with to heal any sisterhood wounds you’ve been carrying. 

First, we have Inanna. 

Inanna is one of the oldest known goddesses—Sumerian Queen of Heaven and Earth, ruling over love, war, fertility, and power. But what makes her so aligned for this work is her descent into the Underworld.

In the myth, Inanna voluntarily journeys into the realm of her sister, Ereshkigal, the goddess of death. To reach her, Inanna must pass through seven gates—and at each one, she’s stripped of a layer of her identity: her crown, her jewels, her robes, her power.

By the time she stands before Ereshkigal, she is naked and vulnerable—face-to-face with her own shadow, reflected in her sister.

And Ereshkigal doesn’t greet her warmly. In fact, she kills her.

But Inanna doesn’t stay dead. Through divine support and allies who remember her, she returns—and rises changed. More whole. More sovereign. More real.

This myth is a mirror for the sisterhood wound:
The fear of being judged.
The tension between sisters.
The pain of betrayal, and the power of return.

Inanna teaches us that true feminine power comes from being willing to descend—to face the pain between women, to strip away what’s performative, and to rise rooted in truth.

Second, we have Brighid. 

Brigid is the Celtic goddess of sacred fire, healing wells, and poetic truth. She was so beloved that she became Saint Brigid in Christian tradition—but her roots go much deeper.

She represents the part of us that midwifes healing between what’s broken. The woman who tends the hearth, who weaves the torn threads back together—not by force, but with presence.

There’s a story that when two warring tribes were on the brink of destruction, Brigid stood between them, holding her fire, refusing to take sides. Instead, she called both leaders to drink from the same sacred well—a well of peace, of remembrance.

And as they did, they remembered their shared origin. Their connection. And war ended.

This is the energy we need when the sisterhood wound makes us distrust each other. Brigid reminds us that we don’t have to fix or perform—we just have to keep tending the fire.
To stay warm-hearted.
To hold both the pain and the potential in the same hand.
To keep showing up.

Fourth, we have Hekate. 

Hecate is the Greek goddess of witchcraft, liminal spaces, and the crossroads. She is the torchbearer in the darkness—the one who stands between worlds.

When the world doesn’t make sense, when your path feels uncertain, when you are confronting the shadow of other women or the pain of past betrayals—Hecate is there.

In one myth, when Persephone was abducted into the Underworld and no one could find her, Hecate was the only one who heard her cries.
She lit her torches and descended with Demeter to find her.
She didn’t just look away or say, “That’s not my problem.”
She stood between grief and truth. Between the maiden and the mother. Between loss and return.

Hecate teaches us that shadow is not the enemy.
That our wounds around women—around trust and betrayal—are gateways.
And that we don’t need to rush to the light.
We can light our torches, look at what’s been hidden, and walk forward—powerfully and intentionally.

And finally, we have Quan Yin. 

Quan Yin, from East Asian Buddhist traditions, is a bodhisattva of mercy and unconditional compassion. She is sometimes called “She Who Hears the Cries of the World.”

There’s a beautiful legend where Quan Yin reaches enlightenment, and instead of leaving the cycle of suffering, she chooses to stay—to help others heal.
She hears every cry of heartbreak, abandonment, and betrayal—and instead of flinching, she offers love.

When the sisterhood wound shows up as withdrawal or walls—when the pain feels too old or too raw to speak out loud—Quan Yin says: “I see you. I’ll sit with you. I’m not going anywhere.”

She teaches us to meet our pain with compassion instead of self-judgment.
To forgive ourselves for the roles we’ve played—on both sides.
And to trust that healing doesn’t always come from action—it often begins with presence.

These guides and plant allies aren’t just ideas. They’re energies. Portals. Support systems you can lean into.

As we close this sacred space…

Remember: you don’t have to heal this overnight.
But every time you soften instead of shut down—every time you choose trust over fear—you’re reweaving the threads.

And if this episode stirred something in you…
If you're realizing that part of why you’ve been hiding or second-guessing yourself is because you’re not fully clear on what you’re offering—or how to speak about it…

Then I’ve created something for you.

It’s called the Aligned Offer Ritual and Checklist—a free downloadable ritual and clarity guide to help you tune into your next soul-aligned offer or ground and clarify an existing one.

It blends intuitive business strategy with sacred ritual, so you can stop spinning and start creating an offer that actually feels like you.

You can grab it at the link in the show notes, or just head to bellaruna.com—it’s right there on the home page.

Let’s start making offers from a place of power, not pressure.

And just know—every time you choose to trust again, even in small ways, you’re doing sacred work. And I’m so proud of you for showing up

Stay magickal my friends. Until next time. 

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